As Featured on News Cult: Why Everyone Needs to Go to Therapy

I’m a huge fan of therapy. Some people treat it like it’s this taboo subject, or are embarrassed to talk about it, but I’m all over that shit. I think everyone needs to be in it, and not only that, but would love it if they gave it a fair shot. It’s medicine. For the soul. Like Chicken Soup for the Soul. Except not because there’s literally nothing more terrible in the world’s existence than that book series.

I don’t know about you, but having someone to confide in and seek advice from on a weekly basis is a lifesaver. Sure, I could talk to my family or friends, but then I’d get unsolicited advice about how I should take it slow with guys, and exercise, and take vitamin D and iron because did you know a lot of us are anemic and we’re not even aware of it, and go to bed earlier and eat less carbs and always use condoms and blah blah blah. Like, an unbiased third party to bounce ideas/terrible decisions off of and who is legally prohibited from telling anyone about them? Sign me up.

I don’t believe any of us are ever fully emotionally realized, because life is too unpredictable. We’re constantly changing—moment by moment. I may wake up hating life and then go to bed hating it more. I may be crying one second and then crying harder the next. I may be hungry at lunch and full but still stuffing my face afterwards. We’re versatile, multifaceted beings, and we are so utterly flawed. So we’re always working on ourselves (ew hate when people say that but couldn’t think of a better way to put it), whether consciously or not. And therapy is conscious work.

Now before you freak out at the prospect of doing work, just take a minute—as you know by now, I am your compadre in hating doing any form of work whatsoever. So trust me, I wouldn’t recommend something that was “work” in the traditional sense. Therapy is not the psychological version of CrossFit; it’s not hard like doing laundry is hard (so hard!), or like pretending to work at work is hard, or like eating cauliflower is impossible hard. Yes, sometimes it is difficult to get through because it involves a lot of introspection and we don’t like what we see at all so much when we look at ourselves. But on the other hand, it’s like a way to get your emotional ducks in a row and seek guidance when you need it (which is ALWAYS because let’s face it we literally have no idea what we’re doing ever). And a way to see things from a perspective other than your own, which is great because undoubtedly you’re wrong in your interpretation of things 110% of the time.

And I’ve been involved with enough people who aren’t in therapy to know that they fucking should be. You’re all a bunch of fucked up narcissists who need to get your shit together. I can’t keep dating guys who have the emotional maturity of a 12-year old before his balls have dropped—they just don’t measure up to my wisdom from Seven Years in Therapy (and counting). Like, get. on. my. LEVEL. I’m not trying to act like I’m so great, but I’m confident that without therapy, I’d have at least 4 more years of wearing sweat wristbands and metal studded belts ahead of me.

And to the people who think you should graduate out of therapy: yes, there is the ethical question to consider (is my therapist keeping me here year after year just to continue making a high hourly rate?). But if you choose a respectable therapist and build a bond with them that’s not like stuck-to-mother’s-teat level co-dependency, it’s beneficial to cultivate that relationship and have it available as a consistent resource. All I’m saying is that if I didn’t have my therapist to help me figure out how to interpret and respond to guys’ texts on a weekly basis, I’d be a severely more dysfunctional person than I already am, which is to say I’d probably be institutionalized on horse tranquilizers under 24/7 observation at place with a name like “Sunnyside Hills Green Pastures on the Horizon Institute for the Mentally Ill-Adjacent and Socially/Functionally/Actually In All Ways Impaired.”

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17 thoughts on “As Featured on News Cult: Why Everyone Needs to Go to Therapy

  1. Awkward Appeal says:

    The one time I tried therapy when I was younger and it was actually the worst. The therapist I had constantly asked me if I was making friends and was concerned that I didn’t have enough of them. Nah bitch I just don’t like fake people. But I’m lucky to have a friend to bounce ideas off of that is non judging so it works, plus we’re both blunt so we give the advice we don’t want to hear but need to hear.

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    • onlybadchi says:

      Totally hear you! I was actually talking with a friend the other day about being in therapy as a child, and I think for kids it totally is the worst, because you feel trapped and uncertain and scared and it’s like impossible to navigate. Although I wish you had actually said “Nah bitch I just don’t like fake people” to that therapist haha. So I should’ve specified that every ADULT needs therapy 😉 Although your friend sounds like the perfect sounding board!

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    • ceraoni says:

      Yeah you do have to be careful about picking the right therapist. A girl I’m friends with on Facebook posted that her therapist basically called her a loser. I was floored. That is not good therapy. I told her to find a better therapist.

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  2. balletandboxing says:

    Agreed! I’m on my 4th therapist and I’ve finally found a winner! 15 months and counting. Such a life saver.

    Don’t always see him weekly, more of a 2x/month tempo, but he’s great.

    We all have baggage and broken bits. I think we have a duty to deal with that shit (and get the help required to do that) so that we can avoid contributing to other people’s baggage and also so we can live life. Properly. Have a chance of life not sucking.

    #therapyftw

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  3. peckapalooza says:

    I finally tried some therapy over the summer after years of denying its necessity. Ended up seeing this guy only twice because… I don’t know… just didn’t click. I should probably try again, but I might have too many trust issues to try and invest in another new therapist to figure out whether or not it’s gonna work out.

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    • onlybadchi says:

      Totally understandable–it literally took me years to build complete trust with mine. But now I can tell her anything. I think it’s worth trying out people until you find one that clicks, if you think it will be valuable for you.

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